I’m sure you’ve been asked, “do you have to go to work tomorrow?” My answer to this mundane question is, “no, I get to go to work tomorrow!”
I must confess that I’ve never been one of those people that leap out of bed in the mornings. I hit the snooze button way too many times before I’m in the frame of mind to embrace another day. But the minute my feet hit the floor, I start thinking of all the things to be accomplished. Things that I have to do and things that I want to do.
Rarely at the end of the day have I accomplished everything, but I don’t beat myself up over it. Somewhere in my life’s journey I came to the realization that success comes one step at a time. I also discovered that success is a state of mind and that my success depends on my state of mind.
“Successful men and women become successful because they acquire the habit of thinking in terms of success. Get the success habit in the small circumstances you control, and soon you’ll be controlling the bigger ones.” – Napoleon Hill (“Think and Grow Rich”).
As a real estate salesperson, I met each potential client with butterflies in my stomach. A feeling similar to that of performers right before the opening curtains reveal you to your audience or you are announced as the next speaker. I began visualizing meeting clients, working through the sales transaction from beginning to end, and sitting at the closing table in a win-win finale. Success became a state of mind.
But how do we cope if the ending is not a happy ending… not a success?
“All my successes have been built on my failures.” – Benjamin Disraeli.
Nobody likes to fail, and why should you? Focus on getting better and not on the mistakes or failures. Understanding mistakes is important, but your focus and attention should go into getting better. Success orientation (thinking about success) is associated with more success whereas failure orientation (focusing on mistakes) is not. Studies show that people who believe in repair feel much better and are able to attend to negative feelings much less than people who do not.
Also, studies show that keeping your eye on the long-term goal constantly can distract you from your performance because it creates such distance from your goal. Instead, focus on the short-term sub-goals, especially after “failure.” Remember, success is one step at a time.
“A winner is one who accepts his failures and mistakes, picks up the pieces, and continues striving to reach his goals.” – Dexter Yager.
To be truly successful, you must become conscious of your thoughts and recognize the power of your mind to create your success.
Rather than reacting to an endless barrage of random thoughts, begin to quiet your mind and focus on the thoughts that instill in you a sense of positivity and vision for success. Do this often and I guarantee you will be amazed with the results.
Anything you can conceive and believe, you can achieve!
What recent success can you attribute to your belief in yourself? A vision of your success? A state of mind?